3 Things Not To Do If You Want To Get Married

November 19, 2015 at 9:00 am


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I have often talked about things to do pertaining to relationships, but it’s also important to know some things not to do. I understand that getting married is something most of you desire, but as I have often stated, getting married is not a goal if it’s God ordained. Marriage is not a goal when God has chosen someone for you, but it becomes a part of your divine destiny!

The Greatest Love You’ve Ever Had

November 12, 2015 at 9:00 am


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Love is so beautiful, but it doesn’t seem as beautiful when you look around and it appears that everyone else is experiencing it except you. It doesn’t take away from the true beauty and power of love! Love will need no introduction in your life b/c it will show up and sweep you off of your feet!

World’s Most Wanted Singles

November 5, 2015 at 9:00 am



If you’re a single Christian with Christian standards and have a desire in your heart to marry, then that automatically places you on the list of the world’s most wanted singles. Contrary to popular belief, many want to be with someone with quality standards, good character, personality, etc. As crazy as it seems, there are many singles out there of the opposite sex who have been led to believe based on what they have experienced that someone like you may not exist.

3 Dating Mistakes To Avoid

October 15, 2015 at 9:00 am


Whether you’re waiting to meet someone or you have just met a potential love interest, this is a topic that I must cover from time to time because sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of your standards when you meet someone new. So, I have outlined 3 dating mistakes to avoid.

Twitter #singlefor1chat Transcript for 10/8/15

October 13, 2015 at 10:17 pm

Single For 1 Chat

We had a great time on our Single for 1 chat this past Thursday. Our topic was, “Good and Bad Habits!” The chat transcript is below.

Single For 1 Chat Transcript for 10/8/15

I Want and Deserve Your Love

October 8, 2015 at 9:00 am


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It may feel like you’ve been waiting forever to truly be loved by someone you want to be loved by. You have waited patiently and perhaps sometimes not so patiently. Of course, some of it has nothing to do with waiting on God, but quite often it’s the enemy who has been blocking what God released.


Your heart has been waiting for the day to receive the love from the 1. You have been waiting to give your love to the one. Perhaps you had some close calls, but it didn’t quite get to the place you had hope or expected. You should want love b/c God is love.


You don’t want love from just anyone, but you want love from the 1 that God has for you. You should not feel bad for wanting. God expects you to ask Him for what you want. He said, “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).  In other words, make God your happy place and He will give you the desires of your heart.


For too long, some of you have been made to feel guilty for talking about what you actually want in a mate not what you need. What you need is already covered, but you should be telling God what you want. When being in a relationship with God is your happy place, your wants being fulfilled becomes easy b/c you are so in tune with His will for your life.


So, you should want to be loved by the right one. You should expect to be treated a certain way. You should want certain things, and you should be unapologetic about it. Too many people have settled because a couple of needs were met, but God wants you to have what you want and need!


Don’t feel bad another day in your life for your wants. Ask God for more. You want more, ask for more. Don’t be ashamed to ask. Don’t be ashamed of your wants b/c God wants to fulfill them.


You deserve to be loved unconditionally. You’re supposed to be loved unconditionally. Anything less is not of God! Don’t listen to the noise in the crowd. You don’t need to compromise. You don’t need to scale back on your wants. God is a God who supplies your needs and gives you your wants!


So start back asking! Love is not just on the way, but love is here. Love is already in your heart, and more is coming to overtake you. The right 1 will shower you with levels of love you didn’t know you could experience! It’s the truth, so you should start believing it.


God is waiting for you to ask and ask in faith! Ask bigger than what you’ve asked. Perhaps you have said that you really don’t ask God for much, but you just want Him to do this or that. Well, let me tell you this, you need to start asking Him for more b/c saying you don’t ask Him for much isn’t as great as it sounds.


He wants you to ask. He expects you to ask. Scripture even says, “We have not because we ask not” (James 4:2). So, ask and ask big. You deserve love because Christ died and rose so you could have it all. Love does come easy when it’s real love b/c real love is from God.


In the meantime, stop watering down. Stop shrinking back. Stop being cute about your wants, and stop allowing others make you feel bad for wants. You deserve love, and I’m glad that it will find you in the right 1 for you!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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Twitter #singlefor1chat Transcript for 10/1/15

October 6, 2015 at 9:40 pm

Single For 1 Chat

We had a great time on our Single For 1 chat last Thursday. Our topic was, “Real Love!”The chat transcript is below.

Single For 1 Chat Transcript for 10/1/15

You Are A Love Magnet!

October 1, 2015 at 9:00 am


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Today, I’m reposting a blog from the blog archives. It has often been said that love is a universal language. On the surface that is true, but what everyone calls love is not really love. That’s another story for another day. What is certain is that if you love God and yourself, you have no other option but to be a love magnet.


You look all around and you see people in love. You see wedding after wedding. Smiles on top of smiles. You see tears of joy coming down someone’s face because they have finally met the 1. It’s always a great time to be in love.

The Duke’s Proposal Video

September 24, 2015 at 9:00 am

Over the past 4 weeks, I’ve shared excerpts from my electronic journal of some of the journey Donna and I was on that led up to this point. There is much more, but you’ll have to wait for the book. Here is the video I prepared for Donna on the day I proposed to her.


Twitter #singlefor1chat Transcript for 9/17/15

September 22, 2015 at 9:10 pm

Single For 1 Chat

We had a great time on our Single For 1 Chat. Our topic was, “My Favorites!” The chat transcript is below.

Single For 1 Chat Transcript for 9/17/15