Tough decisions are tough for a reason. We have to make them throughout life. You can know the right thing to do, but it doesn’t always mean that the decision is easy. Some of you are in “situations” right now. It’s not a relationship, but simply a situation. For some of you it is a relationship, but it’s time to make some choices.
Breakups don’t ever feel good. Parting ways with someone you care about is not a good feeling. However, it is necessary on your journey towards the one. You must understand that just because you moved on doesn’t mean that all of you have moved on. The enemy knows how it works, so that’s why they try to secretly keep you in bondage in certain areas of your life without you knowing.
Today, we will revisit an older post from our “Diary of A Future Spouse” submissions. Enjoy! Also, be sure to join me by registering for my free teleconference that I will be conducting entitled, “Why Is Your Life On Hold? It will be a huge 1st step towards seeing a shift in your life and ridding your life of the works of the enemy that has kept so much on hold in your life. The registration link is below.
I have minimal dating success as a single black mother. My race isn’t the issue, or at least I don’t think so. I have tried meeting men online, as well in person. I work hard, and take care of my son with the help of my family.
The men I meet, however, are less than honest. They lie about being married, or living with someone. When confronted about it, they try to excuse it away. Many of the men that I meet are often looking for sex without real commitment.
As a woman that is trying to be celibate, this is very discouraging and frustrating. It makes me think that I may never meet my other half, and that I may never get married.
I know that when it comes to dating and relationships and when you will get married, a lot of focus is placed on waiting on God. Most Christian relationship coaches spend a lot of time talking about waiting on God and preparing yourself while you wait. That’s good, but I’ve come to tell you that for the majority of you, it has less to do with you waiting on God and more to do with God waiting on you. I’m going to say something that may shock you! For most of you, God has already released your spouse but they are being held up by the devil. Not only that, but the enemy may actually be able to hold your spouse up legally that could have nothing to do directly with anything you did. The good news is that God has something wonderful that’s planned just for you when you get to the end of this blog post that will begin to propel you forward.
As you scroll through your social media feeds, it’s very common to see engagement photos, proposals and wedding pictures. It seems like so many people are getting married. Your friends, cousins, siblings and classmates all seem to be getting married. Naturally, you’re happy for them b/c you are in love with love. However, why does it seem like so many are meeting that special 1 and you haven’t yet?
Some of you are living as in being alive, but you don’t have your life. For some of you, parts of your life are still left behind with someone from your past. A good part of you may have been left in a past relationship, but it’s time to take it back and live! Your life should be held hostage by no one. They may not be physically doing it, but you could be emotionally bound. Your soul could still be tied to someone in your past.
Heartbreak is never a good feeling. The thought of starting over again doesn’t always seem fun when you think about it. You wanted what you had to work. You wanted who you liked or loved to be it. You invested so much into them! You gave so much of yourself but walked away feeling like you lost something.
There are times when dating when things don’t go according to plan. You may have found yourself in a certain position where you have been either waiting for someone to fully commit or waiting for someone to show that they’re interested in you. Wherever you find yourself on the dating journey, don’t give all of your time to someone who has shown you that you are not priority!