3 Dating Habits To Break Today
I saw a post on social media a few days ago that said, “People are not dating anymore. They just talk, catch feelings, have a great time for a while and then end up ignoring each other.” I paused for a moment and thought about it. Unfortunately, that happens a bit too often. Of course, there are some key factors that may contribute to that. So, I have outlined 3 dating habits to break TODAY!
1.) Don’t Give Too Much Too Soon
If I said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times. I need to copyright this b/c I’ve said it for years. Don’t Give A Man Husband Benefits When He’s On A Boyfriend Plan! This also applies to men not giving husband benefits when she’s on a girlfriend plan. Don’t give too much too soon. The easiest way to catch feelings with anyone is to open yourself up before you know who you’re opening yourself up to. Yes, you will have to share things to get to know someone, but your entire resume doesn’t need to be laid out on the table when you barely know the person. I don’t care if you feel you have known them your entire life from 1 conversation. Exercise wisdom please.
When you give too much too soon, you can catch feelings with just about anyone. A good conversation can go a long way, and for some of you, it goes too far. A few good conversations doesn’t give someone the rights to the key to your heart. People have found themselves in regrettable situations b/c of a few kind or even cunning words. Pray for discernment b/c the enemy knows what you want and what you like. He is trying to send counterfeits. You will want to avoid this at all costs. Again, pray for discernment.
2.) Stop Giving Them More Credit Than They Have Earned
I don’t want to hear anything about potential. Yes, potential is good in itself, but everyone has potential. However, good potential untapped is good for nothing. Stop comparing them to the last person you’ve dated. Stop listening to some of the bad advice some of your friends give you like, “Well at least he’s not like the last 1.” “A good man is hard to find, so you had better hold onto him.” “Girl, at least he has a job.” “Stop being so picky, he likes you and it feels good to be liked.” “At least he treats you nice.” “Just have fun b/c you only live once.” “You might not meet someone like him again in life.” “Girl, at least he’s not out there cheating.”
I can go on and on. Stop giving people credit for the basics. They’re supposed to treat you nice, have a plan, like you, be faithful, etc. When you find yourself trying to convince yourself that this is worth it by talking about “at least.” It’s already a red flag. Saying at least this or at least that is an excuse to try to overcompensate for what they are not.
Don’t get so caught up in just having a good time while dating and fail to realize that this person just might be a waste of your time! Don’t try to help them build their resume with you, but let them show it. At least you can do that…Pun intended. lol
3.) Stick To Your Standards
Stop finding new and creative ways to justify lowering your standards to try to make someone fit into it. They either have it or they don’t. Some things you can find out very early, and others may take a little longer. However, it doesn’t take too long to see if they measure up or not. The moment you justify lowering your standards is the moment you just agreed to settle for whatever you can get! That in itself defeats the purpose of having standards.
Yes, we all know that everyone’s standards are not created equal. Don’t lower your standards to be on the level with someone who didn’t have much of a standard to begin with. In the meantime, don’t be discouraged with the dating landscape. There is someone God has for you, but please don’t settle for the 1 Satan has for you! Pray so you don’t fall prey!
As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.
Your Relationship Advisor,
