3 Dating Pitfalls To Avoid in the New Year

January 12, 2017 at 11:16 am


Alright, we’re in a new calendar year and many have already set their goals for the year. You have prayed that this is the year you will meet the 1 God has for you. You are focused on your personal goals and career goals. You are ready to be loved and to give love. So, I have outlined 3 dating pitfalls to avoid in the New Year.

1.) Don’t Waste Time

If you’re not really feeling the person, don’t waste time trying to make something out of nothing. It either is or it isn’t.  The more time you spend trying to see if someone will grow on you, the longer the process will go on to keep you away from getting to the right 1. The bottom line is that everyone doesn’t deserve a chance with you! That’s what standards are for!


2.) Don’t Play Games

Dating is supposed to be a serious thing not a casual thing! Keep your priorities in order! Don’t get caught up in the mind games of are they into me or not. If you have to guess, they’re not as into you as they need to be. Ladies, if he doesn’t call often but only texts, that is a red flag. You need to hear his voice or see his face more often. Who called who last is irrelevant. If it’s about building a relationship, there should be communication on both ends. However, if you notice that you’re doing the majority of the communicating, that’s a big red flag. If he’s into you, he will want to be in contact with you often.


This whole concept of exploring options while getting to know someone is foolish. That’s an easy excuse to do whatever they want to do  because they don’t have a title, yet they say and do things as though you are together. They can’t have it both ways. Either you’re working towards a potential future or you’re not. It’s as simple as that. Don’t be held hostage in a situation-ship (yes that’s not a real word) which is not a relationship. If it’s not exclusive then you don’t need to be a part of it. There is no shopping around on your watch.


3.) Don’t Second Guess Yourself

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been single, you’re not single because you can’t get someone. You’re single because you’re waiting for the right 1. The past is the past. Living in what was or what if will do you no good. Also, if you’re entertaining someone and all the signs are pointing to the fact that they’re not it, believe it. You have Holy Spirit guiding you. Believe Him.


Staying around in a situation because people tell you your standards are too high is nonsense. They aren’t the one’s dating who you’re dating. You like what you like and don’t like what you don’t like. Sure, you’ll make sacrifices in a relationship as it grows, but it shouldn’t make you miserable. That’s called settling, and you’re allergic to that!


You’re not about to lose out on something great. You can’t lose out on what wasn’t yours to begin with. Stop living in that fear zone. Stop listening to all the noise about the ticking clock or that you’re getting older. So, is that some reason to jump in and settle? So, you would rather be unhappy for the sake of having someone? Surely not.


In the meantime, have fun on the journey. Don’t live in panic or fear. Love is real and it will be very real in your life as you meet the 1!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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