3 Dating Red Flags To Watch Out For

December 17, 2015 at 9:00 am


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No matter where you find yourself at this present moment when it comes to relationships, if you desire to marry, the fact of the matter remains that you will have to date before you walk down the aisle. Of course the desire is that the next person you date will be the 1. However, even in that, it’s still a process and there are some red flags that you need to be aware of and make sure you don’t ignore.


1.) If They Are Too Busy For You

Let’s be real here, everyone makes time for what they want. If you’re a single mother who has to work, cook, clean, etc., you don’t find it robbery to make time for your children. It’s a must. You make time for what’s important regardless of how you feel. A single mother may not have all the energy in the world left, but they do their best to spend some quality fun time with their children. This goes for mothers in general whether single or married.


You may say dealing with a child is different, but if someone is serious about marriage, they will not casual date. If they are serious about working towards a future, they will make the time for who they believe could potentially be the 1. If they are too busy and make more time for other things, that is a major red flag. If someone is putting things ahead of you, they have their priorities mixed up! Being with you is an upgrade, but some are too blind to see!


There is no excuse for excuses when it comes to someone making time for you if they say they care and want a long term future with you!


2.) Sudden Changes In Behavior

For starters, you must trust the Holy Spirit in you. As a follower of Christ, you have the distinct advantage of having the Holy Spirit to lead you, but you must allow Him to. Trust what is being revealed to you. Don’t ignore it and make excuses. If you notice the person you’re dating behavior towards you change, believe it.


They may give you push back saying that nothing is wrong or that you’re looking for something. However, you should know the difference between your flesh and the Holy Spirit speaking. They could make some subtle changes, but if you’re really into them, you can notice the subtle change.


Keep your eyes on it. If they start to get short with you or seem distant, something is going on. It could be a number of things. If you feel uneasy about a “friendship” they have with someone of the opposite sex, don’t be afraid to talk to them about it. They might get defensive about it, but trust what you’re hearing.


You should know if it’s jealousy, insecurity or if you just know something is wrong. Sudden changes in behavior are often an indication that something is changing. You may not be able to put your finger on what it is just yet, but pray for answers and for your eyes to be opened. Some of you may even have them read this post and they will dismiss it as some guy who isn’t talking about your situation b/c it’s “different.”


It amazes me how many people are in relationships and blatantly ignore what’s staring them right in the face. They will make every excuse in the world. They will even try to look at other people’s situation and begin comparing. They look for the negative in other relationships to justify the negative in theirs to convince themselves that it’s not that bad or it could be worse. Where is God in that type of thinking?


I urge you not to suppress those feelings that come up after some things have been revealed to you. Don’t cheat yourself. Don’t lie to yourself. Address what you’re sensing, and don’t allow them to brush you off like it’s nothing. There is always something that triggers a behavioral change. Follow the trail and seek God for more answers.


3.) Someone Who Talks Too Much

I’m not talking about the social butterfly. I’m talking about the person who is always trying to impress others. They get around people and all of a sudden they go on and on about this and that. You feel uneasy about it, and you know others feel uneasy about it b/c you sense something isn’t lining up.


Again, this goes back to trusting the Holy Spirit in you. If you have seen someone blatantly lie to others about senseless things, it’s pretty safe to say that they would be willing to lie to you. This goes back to character. You want someone with outstanding character. Some people talk their way around things, but they talk so much and can’t keep up with the lies.


They will eventually catch up.  Pay close attention to someone’s character so you don’t waste your time with someone who is a waste of time!


In the meantime continue to watch out for the red flags. Continue to look forward to your future love life b/c although it feels like it’s been forever, your forever is not going to take forever! I’m looking forward to what will transpire in your love life!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.


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