3 Things To Stop Doing When You Date

January 14, 2016 at 9:00 am


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When you are in route to getting in a relationship, there are some things that you need to not do before you date or while you’re dating. I’m not talking about if you get to the 1, but I’m talking about when you get to the 1. There are some bad habits that need to be broken. I have outlined 3 things to stop doing when you date. These things sometimes go unnoticed, but if you recognize it, it will help you tremendously on your way to the 1.


1.) Stop Making Excuses For Things They Do That You Don’t Like

I’m not talking about when they do something but it’s just not done how you would do it. I’m talking about bigger things. I’m talking about when they do things that impacts you emotionally but you find an excuse to justify why you felt how you felt. You are not desperate for a mate b/c God’s children are not desperate for something God said they could have! What you don’t want to do is allow silent frustration to build up b/c it will explode.


Don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel about something they do or don’t do. Don’t be afraid that you will lose someone by telling them the truth! If they can’t handle the truth, they can’t handle you! The truth sets people free. Ignoring how you feel is not selfless, but it’s selfish b/c it is bound to come up one way or another. If you keep suppressing it, it’s still impacting you negatively and you can’t be 100% you in the relationship.


Regardless of how long you’ve waited for the 1, it doesn’t justify settling! Don’t settle for 2nd place when you were destined for 1st! I know how it is when you’re in something that feels right but you know it’s wrong. Pray for strength b/c you don’t want to get caught up with someone who feels right but you know it’s wrong!


2.) Stop Trying To Force It

So much additional heartache has been added when individuals continuously try to force something to work. I know that emotions can be very strong. I understand it. However, spending months and years trying to make something work when you can see it has reached an end only prolongs you getting to the 1.


Again, I’m not dismissing how hard it can be. I know it’s hard. However, you have the Holy Spirit guiding you. You can pray for the peace of God. The last thing you want is to be held hostage in a relationship that ended a while ago but you’re trying to keep it! We just have to know when to move forward regardless of how hard it is. A good thing isn’t always God’s thing! Getting with the 1 is about God’s assignment for the both of you together!


Relationships require work, but it shouldn’t be constantly wearing you down! It should be building you up!


3.) Stop Ignoring The Facts

This goes back to red flags. You know what you know when you know it. If something keeps coming up in your spirit about the situation, you should not ignore it. Some of you have mastered the art of ignoring the caution signs. Ignoring won’t change what you know to be true. Ignoring only makes you put up with it.


You can want someone to be a certain way badly when dating, but you can’t make them be who or what you need them to be! It either is or it isn’t. The more you choose to ignore what is in front of you or what keeps coming up in your spirit, the longer you will prolong the problem. You can’t make the facts be something other than what it is. This goes back to not making excuses. Either they change for the better, you change for the better or you just know when it’s time to move on.


In the meantime, stay in confidence that you will get to the 1. Remain joyful in knowing that you will get there. It doesn’t matter what lies the enemy tries to sell you, you will get to the 1 God has for you. Along the way, it will help to follow these tips among many others I’ve given to help you on the journey towards the 1 God has for you!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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