Are You Afraid To Love Again?

May 19, 2016 at 9:00 am

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Most of us have had a heartbreak or 2 or 3 along this journey. Things happen along the way that is obviously out of your immediate control. Some relationships didn’t go according to plan. Perhaps you left hurt and disappointed. Perhaps you left upset and are just tired of dealing with this process.


Some of you are to the place where you’re just sick and tired. You’re tired of going through the process of getting to know someone all over again only for it to go nowhere. You’re tired of doing the right thing when it feels like it’s not paying off. You’re tired of feeling like the only 1 with standards or to be frowned upon b/c you have high quality standards. However, I encourage you to keep moving forward. I don’t want you to get to the place where you reject love.


For some of you, if the right 1 came today, it might be hard for you to believe it. You might reject them without knowing you’re rejecting them b/c of the invisible wall that was erected. In that case, you will only be able to give so much of your heart b/c you are still wounded in your soul. You see, many people don’t know that they’re wounded in their soul.


There are some things that you have carried around for years and didn’t know it wounded your soul. Not only does sin wound our soul, but trauma, anger, negative words, ungodly images, certain music, etc. can all wound the soul! You may not feel sad or upset, but it doesn’t mean the soul is not wounded. A wounded soul gives the enemy easy access to continue to inflict individuals legally and to steal from you! This is why we can’t run from it. Don’t run from things that happened, but confront it b/c you don’t want to give demons a free shot to operate in the wounds in your soul!


Your soul is the seat of your mind, will, desire, emotions, as well as your ability to reason. It reveals a humans personality. For some of you, your personality has been altered b/c of wounds in your soul. You were once a certain way when it came to love, but for some of you, it feels safer for you if you don’t get your hopes up about it. It feels safer if you just don’t think about it. The fact that you’re trying not to think about it is proof in itself that your soul is wounded.


Fear that you’re running out of time or that there are no quality candidates available is evidence of wounds in your soul. The good news is that those soul wounds can be healed. Your soul is a storage house that can keep memories you want and those you don’t want. So, you must do your part to make sure it is restored. You might have a smile, but it doesn’t mean that wounds aren’t hidden behind it. When there are wounds in your soul, your soul must be restored in order to receive all that God has for you! You might even get some of what He has, but you won’t be able to fully receive it.


You will be loved and you will love again. If you’ve never been in love that is just fine b/c you will be in love with the 1 God has for you and they will be in love with you. One way to heal your wounded soul is to send the blood of Jesus into it daily. As you pray, ask God to show you where you are wounded and continue to send the blood of Jesus in your soul. You will even begin to have dreams showing you what’s in your soul that you must address.


Once you know what those wounds are, you can target them directly by sending the blood of Jesus on that area in your soul. Don’t be a victim to the enemy’s tactics. They don’t want you to know that your soul is wounded. You could have moved on from the situation, but if you never addressed the wound that it caused to your soul then the wounds are still there.


Love is nothing to be afraid of b/c love will take great care of you. The only thing is that love will have to flow through you and the 1 without any hindrances. A wounded soul can hinder love from flowing fully. So, I want you to pray and ask God to reveal to you the areas in your soul that are wounded b/c I assure you that you have some.


So many things can wound our soul. Sin, trauma, anger, being offended, death of a loved one, etc. can wound your soul. You can repent to God for sins committed and get back in right standing with Him, but it doesn’t automatically heal the wound that it created in your soul. So, you must address it directly. Send the blood of Jesus in your soul daily.


In the meantime, you must rest on the fact that you will love again. You will be loved! You will be cherished! You will be treated better than you though you could be when you encounter the 1! Don’t allow the enemy to play with your soul any longer. It’s time to be healed. It’s time to expose those hidden wounds that you probably had no idea was there. When your soul is healthy, so many other aspects of your life will be healthy. Also, you won’t attract the same type of people or situations. Don’t be afraid to love again b/c love is on a mission to love you like you need to be loved!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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