Don’t Waste My Time If You Don’t Want A Real Relationship

November 3, 2016 at 9:00 am


Hear me clearly, stop allowing individuals who give a halfway commitment to keep wasting your time. Don’t allow them to waste your time if they don’t want a real relationship. Notice that I said REAL. Some are in relationships, but it isn’t real. I know it’s easier said than done, but there has to come a time where you stop going around in circles or being held hostage by someone who really doesn’t know what they want.


If you’re not in this situation, let me help you so that you don’t get in it. Commitment is not hard at all. It doesn’t take a man long to know what he wants. Of course, it’s ultimately about what God wants. It really doesn’t have to be complicated, but sometimes you can make it complicated b/c you’re trying to fill in all the blanks. There should be no guesswork in dating! If you find yourself always trying to fill in the blanks, you’re setting yourself up for disaster!


It doesn’t matter if they get an attitude b/c you ask them what their plans are. It doesn’t matter if they get agitated b/c you actually want to make sure your time is not being wasted. Don’t take half hearted answers either. Don’t let them make you feel like you’re crazy. If you’re not satisfied with the answers you’re getting from someone you’re dating, you have every right to keep asking until you’re satisfied!


You’re investing your time, attention and heart, so you have every right to protect that! If someone gets irritated b/c you just want to know about future plans, that’s a big red flag. You wouldn’t feel the need to ask it if they made you feel secure in the relationship. Of course, I’m not talking about someone who is just insecure b/c of past experiences. That’s a different situation.


No you’re not crazy, so don’t be made to feel as though you are. You’re entitled to know. You can even know that they’re the 1 God said is for you, but they too must get in position. God is not in the business of your time being wasted b/c He has too much for you to do. Stop being silent while dating b/c you’re afraid you might lose them! You can’t lose what doesn’t want to be kept!


I’ve seen it go on a bit too much. Stop being a prisoner in a relationship just for the sake of having someone. Stop listening to bad advice from some of your friends. I don’t want to hear about how it could be worse or be happy that you have someone that has at least shown they care. I don’t want to hear about, well at least they were better than the last one.


At least? God is not anywhere in “at least!” God is the God of more than enough! You’re not single b/c you can’t get someone. You’re single b/c you actually have standards.  Is the enemy fighting to keep you single? Of course, but don’t settle for a counterfeit. Your time is valuable and you should see it as such.


Too many have been in 5,6, 10, 20 year situations and no true change. The only thing that has changed is some have stopped fighting and just accepted it as what it is. They just say, “It is what it is.” No, that does not apply when it comes to relationships. God didn’t send you someone who won’t commit.  Don’t be falling for this false commitment. Don’t fall for this thing that looks like commitment! Just because the person is there doesn’t mean they’re committed!


In the meantime, please, please, please value your time! Please value yourself. Don’t just say it but show it. I know that you will get to the 1, but Lord knows me and more importantly the Lord doesn’t want you to be with someone who is not as serious about you as they should be b/c He made you irresistible to the 1!


As always, remember that you are Single For 1! That is all for now.

Your Relationship Advisor,

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