Single For 1 Purpose!
Single For 1 means that you are single for that 1 person God has ordained for your life. The worldview may sometimes portray being single as a bad thing or an opportunity for a big party to do whatever you want when you want without any consequences. However, if you are not responsible as a single, you will not automatically become responsible when you are married. If you are selfish when you are single, you will not naturally become selfless when married. Being Single is a transitional stage into being married, so continue to prepare while you are in transition.
Everyone has to be or was single at some point in their life. So, when someone asks why are you single, you can say, “I’m Single For 1 or Single For the 1”. When you understand this, you will realize that it is not necessary for you as a woman to feel the need to have to date so many men to finally get to Mr. Right. Granted, there is nothing inherently wrong with dating, but sometimes women date because it is something to do rather than to date with a purpose. There is joy in knowing that the “1” has to find you as a single woman. However, when he finds you, you must also be able to confirm within yourself that he is the “1”.
Five men can ask you to marry them, but only 1 of them is the “1.” So, it takes that gift on the inside of you to be able to identify and know the difference between a copy and the Original. You may get some copies that seem close to the Original, and too many women settle for just the copy. However, when you meet the original, you will be able to quickly tell that the others were just copies.
Single For 1 is a weekly blog intended to address numerous topics in reference to relationships for single women. This blog is intended to encourage you on your journey. Duke will not only encourage you, but your fellow sisters will as well. This blog is from a male perspective with female feedback. This will be a community where you can share your experiences, concerns, comments and suggestions as a single woman. One of the greatest ministries is the ministry of experience, so feel free to share them with everyone here. Many more weekly posts to come. That’s all for now. Stay Blessed.
Your Singles Advisor,
Duke
Getting Married or being with someone should not be a goal, I believe if we enjoy like and our current relationships when it time to happen it will.
EVERYONE TALKING ABOUT BEING MARRIED BUT NOT ENJOYING THE STAGE THAT THEY ARE IN NOW. BEING SINGLE IS A BLESSING AS WELL AS BEING MARRIED. YOU HAVE TO ENJOY THE STAGE IN YOU’RE IN AT THE MOMENT BEFORE YOU CAN GO TO THE NEXT ONE. YOU ALSO HAVE TO ENJOY BEING MARRIED AND NOT WISH FOR YOUR LONG GONE SINGLE DAYS. I AM GETTING MARRIED IN SEPTEMBER AND I ABSOLUTELY LOVED MY SINGLEHOOD. I WAS ABLE TO FOCUS ON ME AND MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. I ALLOWED GOD TO TOUCH SOME AREAS THAT DEFINITELY NEEDED TO BE TOUCHED. SOME ASPECTS ABOUT MYSELF I DO NOT WANT TO CARRY INTO MY MARRIAGE. ALLOW GOD TO WORK ON YOU IN YOUR SINGLE STAGE. AS I AM PREPARING TO GET MARRIED, I SEE THERE ARE GOING TO BE A LOT OF CHANGES. I HAVE TO FOCUS MY ATTENTION ON ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL. I HAVE MORE RESPONSIBILITIES. I AM NOT JUST LIVING FOR MYSELF. I AM ABOUT TO BE CONNECTED TO ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL AND I NEED GOD GUIDING ME THE WHOLE WAY. BEING SINGLE IS SUCH A BLESSING, EMBRACE IT, UNTIL THE 1 COMES AND FIND YOU LADIES.
Mrs. Mildred, I dn’t think that the comments are Over looking the present status of being signles, it’s more of searching for answers. Being single as you said is fun…I’m enjoying it greatly but I would be lying if i said every day being alone is GREAT! Most females are brought up conditioned to “get a husband”, so that is a dream, goal or however you want to categorize it and talking to others will give you at least a template on what to do to reach that goal.
You mentioned you are about to get married, congrat (betta u than me). I agree, a second party is something to get use to but I believe that if you have love and like for each other things will be fine. That is a major concern for me. I have not had any1 in my space for 7yrs and I am a lil touchy about invaders…lol, but i kno God will work all that out when the time comes. The word say, What GOD has put together let no man put asunder”, i beleive dat word, even though I’ll be acquirING another full time job (12a-12p/7days). I’m jus hoping its a job I really, really, really like…someone said marriage is a job..lol.
Someone stated, singleness is the stage where GOD is preparing you; AGREE. You said, spending time w/GOD, same thing; preparing u.
After you get married you still have to comment. We need your feedback. You are the inside Man (woman). Keep us abreast on the opposition..lol, jus playing. May God bless you and keep you and bless your marriage under the end of time. PEACE
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