When it comes to dating and relationships, there is no time for all the gray area. There is no time for all the what ifs and trying to figure out what the other person is thinking or feeling. If you have to guess how they really feel about you then the foundation of the relationship is not solid. At the end of the day, you need to pray and see if they are the 1 or not. Even in knowing they’re the 1, there is still work that must be done on both sides.
When relationships don’t quite go the way you planned or you’re getting to know someone and it doesn’t go in the direction you thought, it could be disappointing. At times you may begin to wonder if you’re doing something wrong or if maybe there are some things that need to be changed. However, it’s not that you’re doing something wrong. It could very well be that you’re doing the right thing.
Dating can and should be fun when it’s not casual but with a purpose. Sometimes there can be a thin line between casual dating and dating with a purpose. You would think it wouldn’t be, but some people make it seem like it is purposeful even though they’re not all in. So, I have included 3 things to do to avoid someone wasting your time.
Dating is something that has to be done before you get to marriage. Some may call it courting, but either way, you have to get to know the person through dating. Unless of course it’s an arranged marriage, but I don’t believe any of you plan on having an arranged marriage in the traditional sense of the phrase. The only one arranging it is God.
I hear people say all the time that the dating pool is limited, and that there aren’t many good candidates available. Some say all the good one’s are taken. The list goes on and on. What you must realize is that when you say those things, you’re creating the atmosphere around you.
Dear Duke,
I met this guy January this year. We started dating and things were ok as he was spending more time with me. Problems started in May when he said I don’t spend enough time with him. I told him I don’t want to rush things. I introduced him in July.
Here is another archived post from our Diary of A Future Spouse!
Dear Duke,
Well to start off, I am finding myself feeling frustrated and almost hopeless in believing that I can find true love God’s way. Don’t get me wrong, I know God is able, but sometimes I just wonder if He is able and willing to perform such a miraculous work in my life.
I met my first boyfriend at 18 when I was a freshman in College. I was a virgin then, and I stood firm on the fact that I wanted to wait until I was married to go all the way.
Dear Duke,
Today we will revisit a past Diary of A Future Spouse post of a real life dating story that was submitted.
I dated a man for 5 months. During the 5 month relationship, I did everything I could to show this man that I was the exception, which was my mistake. This man had a son from a previous relationship. I loved his son the moment I held him.
Love is not hard to find! It is very easy for someone to fall in love with you! Some of you have gotten frustrated b/c you haven’t met the 1 yet! Not only have you not met the 1, but you haven’t met any good potentials. The good news is that it doesn’t matter. You will meet the right 1, and it will be easy for the right 1 to fall in love with you b/c they’ve waited for you all their life!
No matter where you find yourself at this present moment when it comes to relationships, if you desire to marry, the fact of the matter remains that you will have to date before you walk down the aisle. Of course the desire is that the next person you date will be the 1. However, even in that, it’s still a process and there are some red flags that you need to be aware of and make sure you don’t ignore.
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